Hypnotherapy for Confidence and Self-Sabotage in Brixton and Online

Self-sabotage looks like a problem, but it usually started as a solution. Somewhere along the way, a part of you decided that staying small, staying quiet or staying busy would keep you safe from rejection, failure or criticism. That decision made sense at the time. The trouble is that it is still running the show years later.

One thing I say to clients a lot is that it is something you do, not something you are. You are not a procrastinator, you are not a people-pleaser, you are not ‘just not confident’. You have patterns, and patterns can change.

Low confidence is often built on big statements that sound like facts. ‘Everyone else finds this easy.’ ‘I am not the kind of person who…’ ‘A normal person would have sorted this by now.’ In sessions we gently cross-examine those statements. Who says so? What is the evidence? When did I first start to believe this? You will often find that a belief you thought was the truth is really a fear in a very convincing costume.

I have done this for myself too. I once put off an overdue and important legal meeting for over a decade because it made me anxious. Knowing better did not help. Facing it, and noticing what my body was doing, did.

Using IFS-informed work and hypnosis, we meet the parts of you that hold you back. The inner critic, the pleaser, the perfectionist, the part that wants to hide. We find out what each one is afraid of and what it wants for you, and then help them take on a gentler role. As that happens, confidence stops being something you have to force. It simply becomes available.

Many of the women I work with have spent years managing other people’s expectations, and have come to feel emotionally silenced or unsure of themselves. If that sounds like you, this work can help you reconnect with your own voice.